fist date

WELL.... i never never expected it to go this good.
now let me explain myself here, i am a girl who can fall REALLY easily. and i love attention so when ever someone pays attention to me i gravitate to them.... that is why i kept saying that as soon as someone thinks i am cute again i will forget all about freakin whats his name. and i did by the way.

so i am really talking to only two men. and i met one last night and the other will be tomorrow.
the other people i really have no connection to, it is only chatting, still lots of fun but nothing to write home about.
these two guys.... i know that the one i am meeting tomorrow will be more of a physical attraction, he is very nice but has some issues and we dont have alot of connections. plus he is 50 and granted i am almost 43 and no spring chick, 50 seems quite old at first glance.... although he does not look 50.
the one i met last night i had already logged 4 hours of talk time in 2 days with him. there are connections like crazy (helloooo that is what i was looking for) and we really got along well. he has a great sense of humor and is talented, plays guitar and writes. he is 46 and lives 45 minutes away.... he is so nice but i think he is already in too deep with me.
i have told him up front that i am doing the dating thing and i dont want to fall too quick and i have to explore this at my own pace to decide if he is the one for me or not.
both live out of state....... both have redeeming qualities, one more than the other.... but i dont want to put all my eggs in one basket.
although i did invite him to my best friends birthday party today and he said yes ....he wants to come to be able to be with me.
it is all so surreal.
how DO these things happen?
what makes it right?
what is too fast?
what is the right pace?
i dont know.....
i am just going to take my time and explore my options and see where it all takes me.